Saying “no” is good for your wealth and today I want to share a quick exercise to help you say no. You can do this even if you are one of the many people who get totally out of their comfort zone saying NO.
I see this a lot with my clients who have the ‘Nurturer’ money archetype. They have a challenge with creating money boundaries which also then relates to boundaries in their business. You can work out your money personality profile by taking the Sacred Money Archetypes quiz.
Saying “No” Exercise
Create a list of requests or questions that you want to start to decline, but up to now, have reluctantly said yes to.
This list could include:
- Can you help me with ….(fill in the blank, something that you often get asked to help with)?
- Can you just tell me?
- Can you lend me £100? – maybe that relates more to family & friends than your business but you can use this exercise in relation to boundaries in all areas of your life.
- Can you just read my new webpage/report for me? I need to get it sorted by the close of business today?
Once you get started writing your list, I’m sure you’ll find a whole host of things that you want to be able to say NO to.
Practice, practice, practice
Then, you practice saying NO. If you are going to step out of your comfort zone then it’s good to practice. Practice makes perfect, right?
- Read the questions and practice saying NO out loud.
- Get your accountability buddy to ask you the questions and practice saying no.
- Write the question and then the word NO in your journal.
No Is a Complete Sentence
Whilst NO is a complete sentence, you might find it easier to have a slightly longer sentence. “No, I’m sorry, I can’t” is still saying no, but might be more in line with your vocabulary.
In which case, work out what you will say in each of the situations on your list, and practice those.
This is not only helping you but the person you are saying no to. If this is a business situation and you are giving information away for free all the time, you are training your clients to expect more and more. They then don’t value your advice, and they actually will start paying less and less attention to the advice that you give them.
There is nothing worse than giving the same advice to someone, for free, time and time again!